5 Emotions You Should Never Feel From Sex


In our world of ever-present technology, we are bombarded with ideas and philosophies about, well just about everything. And sex is not an exception. There are many great- and not so great- resources out there about what you should and shouldn’t be doing in regards to every aspect of sex.

It can be a lot to digest.

So I’m going to make it simple with defining healthy sex and unhealthy sex. In this article, I’m going to talk about unhealthy sex.

I’m not going to discuss physical aspects because everyone has different likes and dislikes and that’s your own beautiful journey to figure out. What I want to focus on is emotions- a huge part, often left out in media or discussions on sex.

Let’s get to it. If you feel any of the following emotions after sex, chances are it’s not a healthy sexual relationship.


5 emotions you should never feel from sex:


  1. Used

This often comes after something sexual you were not 100% in favor of. Or when your partner does something without taking your feelings into consideration. Or when they only go until they are satisfied and then totally ignore your satisfaction. None of the above are ok. 


2. Out of Control

It’s fun and exciting to try new things but only if all parties involved give their consent. You should always feel like you have the opportunity to put the brakes on if something makes you feel uncomfortable.



Sex should make you feel like the most attractive person in the world. You should not feel disgusting afterwards, either from the actions and words of your partner or the experience itself.


4. Discouraged

Sex should give you a high for life, not diminish that in any way.


5. Pressured

You should never feel like you have to do something you don’t want to do. Especially when it comes to sex.


Bottom line, whatever you choose to do as far as sex, you should feel good about yourself afterwards. The main goal of sex is to sky-rocket both your own self-esteem and the self-esteem of your partner.

You both equally deserve to feel amazing.


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